Research indicates that another sexual revolution is well underway, as evidenced by the high rating of shows that have sex-related content. In a recent study conducted by Jean Twenge of San Diego University, it was found out that 50% of teenage girls are already having sex, and are also considered the leaders of the teen sexual revolution in the new world. The issue of oral sex is now seen in a new light as more and more teenagers no longer see it as disgusting. The trend shows that sex has moved past the boundaries of relationships, marriage and pleasure towards the quest for pleasure.

With the knowledge of teenage sex, how many parents have bothered to educate their children about the pros (if any) and cons of early sexual activities? Studies show that parents would largely rather pretend that their children remain ignorant of sex and talking about it would only increase their curiosity leading to greater experimentation.

But this is definitely not the case. Children can now access sites featuring couples having live sex, or a live sex show with hot models as stars. No, teenagers nowadays are no longer as innocent as we want them to be, and despite the many precautions parents take to prevent their children from sexy webcam chat rooms and club live sex, it just isn’t enough. Children still need to be educated by their parents. They need to know that they are not the only one experiencing things such as arousal or even masturbation. Children are confused and for them to be properly guided towards their societal roles, parents still play the biggest part of it.

The biggest problem for early teen lies in the fact that technically speaking, they still are children. Biologically, teenage girls are not yet equipped to bear healthy children. Aside from this, the spread of sexually transmitted diseases can easily affect teenagers. The majority of who refuse to follow the lessons taught in sexual education in regards to prevention of disease and teenage pregnancy.

People lay the blame of teenage pregnancy on the proliferation of sex-related media and easy access to porn sites. It is true that several studies have found a relationship between early sexual experimentation and sexual innuendos in TVs and movies. But hey, you can’t blame everything to media. True, the media is cluttered with so much sex-related content but still, parents are responsible for their kids and what influences they are exposed to. Leaving children uneducated and ill informed whilst at the same time they are bombarded with sexual orientated images in magazines and on TV without supervision is a recipe for disaster

Also called sexual dysfunction, erectile dysfunction (ED) is known as one of the more common forms of medical conditions that can affect men’s sexual performance. An astonishing fact: estimates show between 15 and 30 million Americans currently suffer from some form of erection problems.

A number of different things can cause these kinds of erection problems. The most common include excessive stress, recreational or prescription drug use, liver disease (usually form alcoholism), or even from a penile implant that isn’t working properly.

Most of the causes are usually physical rather than psychological. However some estimates show up to 70% of ED has a psychological component as well – erection problems can be crushing to a man’s self-image.

The below outlines some of the risk factors involved with this problem, how the condition is diagnosed, and how many men have mastered the condition.

Common Causes:

For most men, impotence comes from one of a number of fairly common sources. Often times common medicines (typically those for blood pressure, anti-depressants, and appetite suppressants) may cause ED as a side effect.

There are also potential psychological effects that can come from stress, guilt, anxiety, fear, depression, fear of sexual failure, and low self-esteem. These influences can account for as much as 20 % of cases on their own, but are also usually contributors to the other 80% of cases. It is safe to say that once a man begins to have problems, his fears and concerns usually compound the condition.

It’s a well known fact that excessive alcohol use and smoking also cause cardiovascular problems that can lead to lowered testosterone and ED.

Any time there is an injury to the spine or pelvis (or cancer surgery on the prostate or bladder) there can be damage to the nerves near the penis that may lead to problems with erections in the future.

Damaged nerves and tissues (smooth muscles, arteries, etc.) are the most common source of problems. Diabetes, kidney disease, excessive alcohol use, and conditions like multiple sclerosis and atherosclerosis account for the majority of cases of impotence. Up to 50% of men with diabetes experience sexual problems at some point.

Although aging is associated with erection problems, it is not ‘just a part of getting older’. It is caused by other health issues that affect greater numbers of older men, but it doesn’t happen in the absence of other problems.

How is ED diagnosed?

Diagnosis is usually done by a physician using several of the following sources of information:

Medical history – Any evidence of illnesses or even a recollection of sexual activity may help a physician determine the cause of difficulties with the erection.

Physical examinations – Pain in the penis may suggest a nerve issues. Hormonal problems may show up as increased male breast size or abnormal hair growth. Circulatory problems may show up as decreased pulse in the wrists and / or ankles. Peyronie’s disease may cause impotence by causing the penis to bend to the point of making it difficult to maintain an erection as a result of poor blood flow.

Psychological examination – Interviews and questionnaires may indicate the mental aspects that could be contributing to the problem.  It is important for a man’s partner to be involved in this process. Partners may feel less embarrassment in explaining what the problems might be in this area.

How is ED treated?

Luckily for a large number of men ED is a curable condition. A number of different treatments are available that can make a real difference, even completely reversing the effects.

Physicians typically suggest treatments starting with the least invasive, moving up to higher risk options only after all the low risk options have been attempted.

If, for example, you suspect that the heart medication you are taking is the problem, telling your doctor may result in his trying a different class of medicine or altering the dosage. Some patients may be suited to undertaking psychotherapy or behaviour modifications. Others may try using herbal medicines next, as they don’t typically conflict with other medications, and have a high rate of effectiveness.

Oral drugs (like Viagra) are often considered next, followed by locally injected drugs. It is important to first discuss taking Viagra with your physician if you have suffered any particular heart condition. Vacuum devices like penis pumps and cock rings are often a simple and inexpensive remedy. Surgery is usually used as a last resort and after all other methods have been explored. The dangers involved with surgery make it a last resort.

A viable option (and highly successful in many cases) is treatment with herbal combinations. In clinical testing, several herbal ingredients have been proven highly effective against mild to moderate cases of ED, with clinical results showing as much as 90% effectiveness in treating erection problems. A visit to your local naturopath for further information.

Try to answer the questions as honestly as you can, after all only you have access to the answers.

Just make a note of your answers, then calculate your scoring; then you’ll find out how your sex drive is effecting your relationships!

Q1. How often do you have sex with your partner? a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.

Q2. How often do you have sex with someone other than your partner? a) everyday. b) 1 or 2 times a week. c) occasionally. d) Never.

Q3. How often do you think about having sex? a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.

Q4. How often do you masturbate? a) everyday. b) 2 or 3 times a week. c) 2 or 3 times a month. d) Less.

 Q5. When having sex with your partner, do you ever use Sex Toys? a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I’ve tried it. d) Never.

 Q6. When masturbating, do you ever use Sex Toys? a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I’ve tried it. d) Never.

Q7. Do you ever role-play when having sex, i.e. dressing up? a) yes, a lot. b) yes, occasionally. c) I’ve tried it. d) Never. In this segment, mark ALL the answers that apply!

Q8. What events are most likely to turn you on? a) watching an x-rated movie (with your partner or on your own). b) watching the Saturday Night premier, with the love scenes. c) waking up/going to bed next to your partner d) romantic dinner / evening for the two of you.

Q9. Where have you had sex? a) in the bedroom b) all over the house c) in the garden d) in a public place

Q10. What fantasies have you fulfilled? a) yours b) your partners c) ones that you saw in an x-rated movie or magazine d) none

SCORING: Just tally the all the values beside the answers that you have selected; remember that questions 8, 9 and 10 may have multiple answers.

Q1. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

Q2. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

 Q3. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

Q4. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

Q5. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

Q6. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

Q7. a)3 b)2 c)1 d)0

 Q8. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1

Q9. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1

Q10. a)1 b)1 c)1 d)1

 INTERPRETING YOUR SCORE:

 IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 0 and 11.

You have a very low sex drive. This may have a negative effect on your relationships. I know that healthy relationships are not based just on sex. They are based on trust, love, and communication. However intimacy leads to intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, touch intimacy (non sexual, like hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. When you have sexual intimacy with your partner you are laying the paving stones, for a more intimate relationship. You will have to try and loose some of your inhibitions allowing your partner the key, or at least lending him the key more often. You can obtain tutorial books and DVD’s on learning how to become more intimate with your partner.

IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 12 and 22.

You have a perfectly healthy and normal sex drive. This will have a positive effect on your relationships. Your sexual intimacy will lead to other forms of intimacy with your partner, ultimately taking you to the next level.

IF YOU SCORE TOTAL IS BETWEEN 23 and 33.

You have a high sex drive. This may have a negative effect on any relationships you have. You have to balance all the different aspects of intimacy; what I mean is that there are different forms of intimacy, touch intimacy (non-sexual, like hugs, caress, holding hands, massage, etc.), verbal intimacy and sexual intimacy. If you focus on just one, your relationships will struggle to get to next level. You need to understand that there are more to relationships than just sex. What I recommend is more masturbating to cure your urge so that you can focus on balancing intimacy types to try to take you to a deeper relationship that is more meaningful. You can use sex toys for more satisfying masturbation!

Brooke Reinertsen, a saleswoman for one of those multi-level marketing home-party outfits, is giving a sales presentation. But it sounds nothing like a Tupperware or Mary Kay event.

“OK ladies, now rub, lick, blow. Rub, lick, blow. Feel that? You can just about breathe your partner to orgasm with this!”

Vibrator, Vibrators, more Vibrators

Reinertsen, a no-nonsense 30-year-old suburban mom from Shawnee, Kan., goes on to demonstrate “Gigi,” a male masturbation sleeve, by squeezing a generous amount of lubricant into it, then sliding and twisting it up and down the penis-shaped lube bottle.

“This is going to make your job so much easier!” she says, sounding a lot like a vacuum salesman who’s just spread topsoil on the carpet.

At that, 15 women turn to look at me, as if to say, “Well?” It’s then I realize that being the only man at a Passion Party can be uncomfortable.

But in this room, I’m the only one blushing, which is saying something because Cathy Pearson, 44, is here with her two daughters, 18 and 24. Not only is she not embarrassed, she regards the sex toy party as a chance for some mother-daughter bonding, a deliberate effort to change the sexual conversation she heard as a girl.

“I was so sheltered … I was very naïve,” she tells me. Like many in the area, she grew up Southern Baptist, got married out of high school and “all I knew was this little world. When I got divorced 10 years ago, I felt so stupid.” She doesn’t want her daughters to feel the same way.

Sizzling market
This is exactly what Pat Davis, the president of Passion Parties, the Las Vegas-based company that supplies Reinertsen with her products and training, calls the company’s mission. “We are really helping educate women, helping them have better relationships,” she says.

If my three nights of Passion Partying in small-town Missouri are any indication, Davis has tapped into a very receptive audience, and one quite willing to pay for vibrators, dildos, lubricants and other products that boost their sexual pleasure.

Reinertsen’s sales network, which includes herself and those she has brought into the fold, made more than $1.2 million in sales in 2005. She took home more than $100,000 in personal income. She’ll do better in 2006, and most of those sales will come from small towns and rural locations in eastern Kansas and western Missouri.

Davis won’t give out the private company’s gross sales, but I did some math and suggested to Joanne Harvie, the vice-president of finance, that the corporation sells something like $100 million dollars worth of sex-related products per year.

“You could say that, rest comfortably, and sleep very well at night,” she says. Sales are growing at a double-digit pace.

by Dr. Linda R. Mona
www.mypleasure.com

Getting assistance has been on the minds of disabled people for quite some time but only recently has been discussed in a few academic articles and amongst community members in a variety of different venues. The most frequently-asked questions about sex and personal assistance services (PAS) are: With what types of sexual activities might an individual with disability need assistance? And, how would you find a person willing to assist with such a private yet important activity?

While choosing the right sex toy and/or modifying it can assist a person with a disability with being sexual, sometimes those changes are just not enough to help facilitate the activity. There are people with disabilities who may need assistance from another person for masturbation or having sex with someone else. PAS refers to a person assisting someone with a disability to perform tasks aimed at maintaining well-being, personal appearance, comfort, safety, and interaction with the community and society as a whole. And, while sex is not specifically included within the typical definition of PAS, it certainly does fall within the domain of “well-being.”

Below are examples of sexual activities that individuals with disabilities may need PAS for experiencing their sexual pleasure:

• Physical Impairments
  Removing clothes; positioning for masturbation; positioning for partner sex; transferring in and out of the wheelchair onto the floor, couch, or bed; stimulating a partner’s body with your hand or sex toy; stimulating your own body with a hand or sex toy; cleaning up and getting redressed; using birth control (condoms, diaphragm, birth control pill, etc.)
• Visual Impairments
  Preparation for sex; e.g., transportation to and from your partner’s location, shopping for sex toys, discussion and interpretation of sexual positions often only drawn in books
• Hearing Impairments
  Sign Language interpretation before and/or during sexual activity with a hearing partner, phone interpretation if TTY or other telecommunication services are not available

There is, of course, a wide array of what people need help with and who will agree to assist. For example, someone may need assistance with setting up to use a sex toy; e.g., taking the product out of its box, positioning it in a person’s hand, and turning on the power, but may be fine with actually stimulating herself/himself. On the other hand, another person may need help with the whole process; e.g., all of the above, plus, holding the sex toy in place where the person desires the stimulation. It is very important to think about these issues before you look for a personal assistant and ask for help.Although people with disabilities have been using PAS for sex over the years, there has been much controversy about how one asks for such assistance and what others have found successful in negotiating such a relationship. Below are some ideas about how to prepare to and have a conversation with a potential personal assistant about helping with sexual activities:

• Develop a concrete list of activities with which you need assistance; e.g., removing clothes, masturbation, touching a partner, using a condom or diaphragm, using a sex toy
• Establish boundaries and rules; e.g., indicate how long you estimate that an assistant might stay in the room, and be able to identify the activities with which you do and do not want assistance
• Agree upon a communication system to be upheld between the assistant and the disabled person within the sexual encounter; e.g., establishing particular words, hand signals, eye blinks to indicate when to start, stop, and leave room
• Partner involvement when both individuals have disabilities; e.g., communicating with a partner about her/his physical abilities, feelings about assistance with sex, what her/his understanding of the assistant’s involvement is prior to interviewing a potential service provider
• Think about safety issues when choosing a provider; e.g., checking appropriate general references for this person, making sure that a friend knows what is going on and may be able to check in to see if the situation is safe, determining a way to call for help if you feel uncomfortable

Not surprisingly, this topic has been quite controversial for many reasons. Agencies that provide funding for PAS will not specifically indicate that they would approve sexual activity as one of the areas of basic needs for people with disabilities. However, bowel, bladder, and menstrual care are typically approved as appropriate activities.

Sex is personal, private, and a basic need. So what do people with disabilities do? They ask for assistance from friends or service providers other than their usual personal assistant. Most often they pay out of pocket for this service. Or sadly, some disabled people choose not to pursue their sexual experiences. While people without disabilities may take for granted their right to experience their sexuality, people with disabilities have to fight for this right at various times throughout their lives. Is it all worth it? Absolutely!

Dr. Linda R. Mona is a nationally recognized expert, and well-known advocate, for disability rights. She has authored numerous presentations and papers on the topic of sexuality and disability, in particular, and often runs workshops on this very important topic.

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Mothers leaving kids in car parks while they play the pokies in the casino. Fathers shaking their babies so violently it leaves them hospitalised. The lenghts of cruelty that some parents bestow upon their own flesh and blood is sickening. It would seem very little is done by the authorities in these cases. Courts are full of drug riddled mothers winning custody of offspring due to some antiquated notion that a child should be with their mother.

I’m sure that if a camera was on each and every parent there would be numerous cases of children sitting on their parents lap while taking a drive. Moments where it would look like the baby was going to slip as the mother juggled the other 2 kids and a shopping cart. Countless undocumented accidents in local shopping centre carparks. How many kids are left with the grandparents or rented baby sitters while parents go out on the town?

There are 24 hours in a day, are we getting to see a balanced slice of the Britney pie? How many stories could a body guard tell if they lived in your house? How many upskirt photos would reveal knickerless maidens going about their daily business?

How many magazines would sell with pictures of Britney wearing her grandmothers underwear? I do not think Britney is the ideal example of motherhood but I could show you a hundred worse examples in your local shopping mall!

Popular Trends for Fall

© Lindsey Michelle

Jul 12, 2007

A guide to trends: yesterday, today and ahead.

Fashion magazines have so far given some hints to what’s popular for fall. But with summer still in full swing, it can be difficult to decide what to wear now and what to keep an eye out for when the weather (or at least the calendar) turns in September. However, if you wait to buy your fall purchases when it finally “feels” like fall, the best items – and the good deals – will be gone! The key to enhancing your closet isn’t to buy an entire new wardrobe; it’s adding certain pieces to the clothes and outfits you already own. Follow this preliminary summer-to-fall chart to see which items to keep, which items to purchase and, unfortunately, which to hide in the back of your closet until they become trendy once again.

Dresses

Yesterday: 1950s throwbacks

Today: Babydoll and trapeze dresses – fun and easy for summer, paired with bare legs and a simple cardigan

Ahead: Fall welcomes longer hemlines for both dresses and skirts. Many designers are showing lengths extending to below the knee. The 1920s look is in again, but with a longer look, not necessarily minidresses.

Jeans

Yesterday: Skinny jeans

Today: Anything goes

Ahead: Sleek and simple jeans. For fall, embellishments are cooled down. Unlike the past few years, many jeans have plain pockets, without extra pocket designs, glitter or rhinestones. The fit of the jeans is equally reserved – not exceptionally skinny or wide.

Shoes

Yesterday: Platforms and wedges – wedges are still fashionable to wear during the summer, but it’s past the time to buy any new ones

Today: Marc Jacobs jellies and other fun, summer flats

Ahead: Fall runway models wear flats, but they’re also showing spectator pumps and other more “substantial” heels. This goes along with the more grown-up, lower hemline theme.

Bags

Yesterday: Giant, carry-everything-you-own designer bags

Today: Clutches are perfect to throw into your purse or beach bag during the day and to use by themselves at night

Ahead: Whether big or small, think structured handbags for fall. Avoid shoulder straps; instead carry the bag by its handles. Faux crocodile and snakeskin are popular, and metallics are also ‘in’ for fall.

Keep these pointers in mind when shopping for fall pieces:

Buy immediately if: you can easily afford the item; you haven’t seen anything else like it anywhere; you simiply can’t live without it.

Wait if: you may find something you like better at another store or department; you like the “idea” of the item but you aren’t sure if you’ll wear it; it only fits a certain type of weather or event (example: a raincoat in a city that barely gets rain or a fancy dress without an occasion in mind).

Don’t buy if: the item doesn’t fit right; you like the idea of owning the item but doubt you’ll wear/use it; you really can’t afford it.

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For many newcomers taking the first step into online dating may be daunting. With all the online dating services that are available now, how do you choose which is best for you? How do you get started? What’s the best approach for messaging? What do you put in a profile? How do you guarantee your own safety? What are the best strategies for successful online dating? These are just a few of the questions new online daters face all the time. But with a bit of advice, practically everyone can find success in online dating. Here are a few brief tips:
One of the most important things for newcomers to dating online is which service to use. The first step in making this decision is to determine the specific needs that should be met by the dating service, and find websites that cater to those needs. For example, while some dating services cater specifically to casual encounters, some are designed to make matches for serious relationships only, while a few target people who are looking specifically for someone to start an affair with. Other important things to look for are price. For many people just starting out, free sites can be a good introduction to the online dating world that doesn’t involve a financial commitment. It’s also a good idea to browse around and see if the members who are already signed up for the site share similar tastes and interests.
Once an online dating service is selected, it’s time to get started on creating a profile. Needless to say, profiles are a very important part of online dating. Members of online dating services find out about each other, and decide if they want to introduce themselves, based on the information in a profile. Because of this, its important to make a positive, truthful impression by keeping the information light and inviting. A good rule of thumb is to avoid any negative information in a profile whatsoever. The most important thing to include in a profile is a clear, smiling picture that focuses on the member’s face.
After completing a profile, users can start messaging other members. The key to messaging is to make messages personable, friendly, and make it evident that the profile of the person being sent the message has been read. It’s crucial to make the recipient feel as though the message sender is actually interested in them, rather than being one of many people who has been messaged. Respond to specific aspects of their profile and keep the message light and friendly. Also, remember to ask a question in the message to give the person something to respond to.
Finally, safety is one of the most important issues in online dating. It’s crucial to remember not to include any personal or private information in the profile. Never divulge personal information like credit card numbers to anyone, and keep information like home address, email address and phone numbers confidential until you’re completely comfortable and ready to. Meeting someone in person should also only be done with caution. Meetings should take place in public spaces, with all necessary precautions taken.
With these guidelines and tips, online dating can be a safe and successful endeavor for anyone. Most importantly, how you decide to proceed with online dating is completely dependent on personal comfort levels. Go at your own pace, never do anything you’re not comfortable with, and remember to have fun!
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The First Steps to Dating Online
13th July 2007
Author: Joe

For many newcomers taking the first step into online dating may be daunting. With all the online dating services that are available now, how do you choose which is best for you? How do you get started? What’s the best approach for messaging? What do you put in a profile? How do you guarantee your own safety? What are the best strategies for successful online dating? These are just a few of the questions new online daters face all the time. But with a bit of advice, practically everyone can find success in online dating. Here are a few brief tips:
One of the most important things for newcomers to dating online is which service to use. The first step in making this decision is to determine the specific needs that should be met by the dating service, and find websites that cater to those needs. For example, while some dating services cater specifically to casual encounters, some are designed to make matches for serious relationships only, while a few target people who are looking specifically for someone to start an affair with. Other important things to look for are price. For many people just starting out, free sites can be a good introduction to the online dating world that doesn’t involve a financial commitment. It’s also a good idea to browse around and see if the members who are already signed up for the site share similar tastes and interests.
Once an online dating service is selected, it’s time to get started on creating a profile. Needless to say, profiles are a very important part of online dating. Members of online dating services find out about each other, and decide if they want to introduce themselves, based on the information in a profile. Because of this, its important to make a positive, truthful impression by keeping the information light and inviting. A good rule of thumb is to avoid any negative information in a profile whatsoever. The most important thing to include in a profile is a clear, smiling picture that focuses on the member’s face.
After completing a profile, users can start messaging other members. The key to messaging is to make messages personable, friendly, and make it evident that the profile of the person being sent the message has been read. It’s crucial to make the recipient feel as though the message sender is actually interested in them, rather than being one of many people who has been messaged. Respond to specific aspects of their profile and keep the message light and friendly. Also, remember to ask a question in the message to give the person something to respond to.
Finally, safety is one of the most important issues in online dating. It’s crucial to remember not to include any personal or private information in the profile. Never divulge personal information like credit card numbers to anyone, and keep information like home address, email address and phone numbers confidential until you’re completely comfortable and ready to. Meeting someone in person should also only be done with caution. Meetings should take place in public spaces, with all necessary precautions taken.
With these guidelines and tips, online dating can be a safe and successful endeavor for anyone. Most importantly, how you decide to proceed with online dating is completely dependent on personal comfort levels. Go at your own pace, never do anything you’re not comfortable with, and remember to have fun!
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